Comments on: What are Toxic Friends and How Do I Get Rid of Them? http://www.beautyfool.net/what-are-toxic-friends-and-how-do-i-get-rid-of-them/ Mon, 06 Sep 2010 16:59:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Making life simple - getting rid of excess relationships. http://www.beautyfool.net/what-are-toxic-friends-and-how-do-i-get-rid-of-them/#comment-26370 Making life simple - getting rid of excess relationships. Thu, 02 Sep 2010 14:16:13 +0000 http://www.beautyfool.net/?p=5235#comment-26370 [...] What are toxic friends and how to get rid of them [...] [...] What are toxic friends and how to get rid of them [...]

]]> By: Nice girl http://www.beautyfool.net/what-are-toxic-friends-and-how-do-i-get-rid-of-them/#comment-19427 Nice girl Tue, 04 May 2010 20:39:50 +0000 http://www.beautyfool.net/?p=5235#comment-19427 Wow I really love your work on here! Your blog is so helpful to so many people out there including myself:) I agree with you that for true beauty inside and out, it's not only what you eat, what products we use on our face or how much sleep we get but also the people that surround us. If they are negative, then good luck on sustaining beauty and happiness... Great point! It's been easy for me to let go of a lot of negative people who consume energy. However, there has always been this one person in my life whom i grew up with and it's a little more difficult trying to "cut them out". I would say she's a bit of a draining vampire and if given the chance she could talk for hours daily! (I have tested it before). Getting rid of annoying people daily is easy but what if a person has been there since you were born? How do you cut these people off from your life? it's a little harder I think. I don't think you can just be like seee ya laterz! (well some people can) but they should get some explanation no? I have tried to hint it but it's not use. I have gotten guilt trips and little manipulating ways for me to give in to what she wants me to do and then I feel so shitty after when i think back. In that moment though I feel like I am the bad guy!!!! I am tired of being the nice girl. Any advice would be nice. Wow I really love your work on here! Your blog is so helpful to so many people out there including myself:) I agree with you that for true beauty inside and out, it’s not only what you eat, what products we use on our face or how much sleep we get but also the people that surround us. If they are negative, then good luck on sustaining beauty and happiness… Great point! It’s been easy for me to let go of a lot of negative people who consume energy. However, there has always been this one person in my life whom i grew up with and it’s a little more difficult trying to “cut them out”. I would say she’s a bit of a draining vampire and if given the chance she could talk for hours daily! (I have tested it before). Getting rid of annoying people daily is easy but what if a person has been there since you were born? How do you cut these people off from your life? it’s a little harder I think. I don’t think you can just be like seee ya laterz! (well some people can) but they should get some explanation no? I have tried to hint it but it’s not use. I have gotten guilt trips and little manipulating ways for me to give in to what she wants me to do and then I feel so shitty after when i think back. In that moment though I feel like I am the bad guy!!!! I am tired of being the nice girl.

Any advice would be nice.

]]> By: Junnie http://www.beautyfool.net/what-are-toxic-friends-and-how-do-i-get-rid-of-them/#comment-18634 Junnie Fri, 23 Apr 2010 13:58:27 +0000 http://www.beautyfool.net/?p=5235#comment-18634 Great article, kudos on that. Toxic friends are horrible. But sometimes in a friendship when both sides are being toxic friends to each other, you can't really blame each other. It's not that you are not good or I am not good, it's just that we need to let go & move on. Simple as that. Good luck on your friendship & have a good life, da *winks* Great article, kudos on that.

Toxic friends are horrible. But sometimes in a friendship when both sides are being toxic friends to each other, you can’t really blame each other.
It’s not that you are not good or I am not good, it’s just that we need to let go & move on. Simple as that.

Good luck on your friendship & have a good life, da *winks*

]]> By: Lala http://www.beautyfool.net/what-are-toxic-friends-and-how-do-i-get-rid-of-them/#comment-8265 Lala Wed, 05 Aug 2009 18:09:36 +0000 http://www.beautyfool.net/?p=5235#comment-8265 Nice article and really relevant to people's behavior these days. Nice article and really relevant to people’s behavior these days.

]]> By: Renee http://www.beautyfool.net/what-are-toxic-friends-and-how-do-i-get-rid-of-them/#comment-7886 Renee Sat, 25 Jul 2009 09:10:27 +0000 http://www.beautyfool.net/?p=5235#comment-7886 Yeah, you can't help someone who obviously doesn't want to help themselves. Obviously this person has many issues in their life and I don't think you can fix it. Also, as someone who has cheated, manipulated and used people all their lives, it's safe to say he's just using you too. If you're spiritual, you can pray that he sorts his life out and 'finds himself' but since it's doing so much harm to you, you should cut off all contact and move on. I wish you all the best, hope it all works out! Yeah, you can’t help someone who obviously doesn’t want to help themselves. Obviously this person has many issues in their life and I don’t think you can fix it. Also, as someone who has cheated, manipulated and used people all their lives, it’s safe to say he’s just using you too.

If you’re spiritual, you can pray that he sorts his life out and ‘finds himself’ but since it’s doing so much harm to you, you should cut off all contact and move on.

I wish you all the best, hope it all works out!

]]> By: Blake http://www.beautyfool.net/what-are-toxic-friends-and-how-do-i-get-rid-of-them/#comment-7864 Blake Fri, 24 Jul 2009 14:02:45 +0000 http://www.beautyfool.net/?p=5235#comment-7864 I made too fast a "friend" out of someone I met through work. This person is living in a halfway house and looking at serious jailtime, having already spend about half of his 30 years in prison for grand theft auto, male hustling, assault and more. I do not know what attracted me to him, but I think it was a sincere desire to help him out by offering him friendship with someone who has not lived his sort of life, and he is a very friendly, attractive, personable little hustler. But almost immediately, he started assuming I would buy him items - expensive, considerable items I have not even bought myself or a relative. I have bought about three items that were too much in value, but cheaper than the exact ones he wanted. I need to get away from him before I feel the damage in my wallet, before he hustles me out of my belongings, and before he takes my car or computer or more. There is no physical relationship, but at first that was his "come on." I told him quickly that I knew that was not going to happen - but he is hustling me emotionally, not sexually, and he is sloppy about it. Yet, I keep cooperating to too high a degree. I told him to go away, but he came back and apologized then did it all over again. I find that I am weak with him, I sincerely wanted to help him out (but not as a sugar daddy) and now, I just want out. I cant find the energy or words. I saw how weak I was when he came back. I admit that I have been a loner as an adult, and a workaholic, and I do not find his company unpleasant; still, he is 17 years younger than I am. I can't say my motivations are 100% nonsexual -- I'd like to say that, because it isn't going to happen - I'd be very concerned about diseases, and he obviously isn't interested in that. I am the easiest "john" he's ever had to "screw over." without screwing. It's ridiculous. I am a professional. However, I am dumbstruck. I am inclined to just cut him off completely, coldly, immediately, and not make myself available again given my weakness for him. Do you agree? I made too fast a “friend” out of someone I met through work. This person is living in a halfway house and looking at serious jailtime, having already spend about half of his 30 years in prison for grand theft auto, male hustling, assault and more. I do not know what attracted me to him, but I think it was a sincere desire to help him out by offering him friendship with someone who has not lived his sort of life, and he is a very friendly, attractive, personable little hustler. But almost immediately, he started assuming I would buy him items – expensive, considerable items I have not even bought myself or a relative. I have bought about three items that were too much in value, but cheaper than the exact ones he wanted. I need to get away from him before I feel the damage in my wallet, before he hustles me out of my belongings, and before he takes my car or computer or more. There is no physical relationship, but at first that was his “come on.” I told him quickly that I knew that was not going to happen – but he is hustling me emotionally, not sexually, and he is sloppy about it. Yet, I keep cooperating to too high a degree. I told him to go away, but he came back and apologized then did it all over again. I find that I am weak with him, I sincerely wanted to help him out (but not as a sugar daddy) and now, I just want out. I cant find the energy or words. I saw how weak I was when he came back. I admit that I have been a loner as an adult, and a workaholic, and I do not find his company unpleasant; still, he is 17 years younger than I am. I can’t say my motivations are 100% nonsexual — I’d like to say that, because it isn’t going to happen – I’d be very concerned about diseases, and he obviously isn’t interested in that. I am the easiest “john” he’s ever had to “screw over.” without screwing. It’s ridiculous. I am a professional. However, I am dumbstruck. I am inclined to just cut him off completely, coldly, immediately, and not make myself available again given my weakness for him. Do you agree?

]]> By: Renee http://www.beautyfool.net/what-are-toxic-friends-and-how-do-i-get-rid-of-them/#comment-7604 Renee Thu, 16 Jul 2009 05:15:58 +0000 http://www.beautyfool.net/?p=5235#comment-7604 Dip - spot on. If we all just knew how to set boundaries earlier then I guess we wouldn't have to deal with certain things. But we also need to go through this to realize we need to set boundaries in the first place, so all a learning experience, really :D Dip – spot on. If we all just knew how to set boundaries earlier then I guess we wouldn’t have to deal with certain things. But we also need to go through this to realize we need to set boundaries in the first place, so all a learning experience, really :D

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